choice and acceptance

"Times they gotta change
but so do we"
-Margot and the Nuclear So and So's

life happens and it is uncontrollable. sometimes there is a tendency to pity oneself, to say, "look at all these things happening to me. look at all these things happening to me that make me unable to be who i would be if all were perfect." this is completely ridiculous. happy people are not happy because everything goes well in their life, but because they choose to react to situations with an open mind and heart. they don't get their minds and hearts stuck on what they wish were true, but rather they accept each situation as it comes, embrace it, and love it for what it is. an immense peace comes from letting go of our false sense of control. when we act like we can control what can happen in our lives we quickly become frustrated and bitter when things do not go as we try to make them. we are failing! something is wrong with us because we cannot control! but really we are failing because we have created an impossible task. so lighten up. let go of control. open your mind. see the world in a new light of acceptance and love. the only thing we may have a chance of controlling is ourselves and our reactions to the situations we encounter. nothing happens to us except that which we allow. choose to open.